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Red Flag Behaviour
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QUIZ
Test your knowledge!
Identify the type of coercion described for each question:
1. Someone asking you again and again to do something you have already said you don’t want to do.
This is an example of someone being persistent. Someone asking you repeatedly to do something after you have said no is trying to wear you down and not respecting your decision.
2. Someone saying, “If you send me a nude, then I will be in love with you forever.”
This is an example of an exchange. Sex and sexuality should not be an exchange, but rather an agreement where you agree to do something together that you like.
3. Someone telling you they will leave you if you don’t do what they want.
This is an example of a threat. This signals that someone is trying to take control away from you and it’s not okay.
Identify the type of coercion used in each of the following scenarios:
4. My girlfriend wants me to hang out with her every weekend. If I want to hang out with my friends without her, then she says I don’t really care about her. She says she’ll break up with me if I don’t hang out with her to prove that I care about her.
This is an example of a threat. The girlfriend is not respecting her partner’s boundaries and is trying to control their decision.
5. My boyfriend keeps bugging me to send nudes, even though he knows I don’t want to.
This is an example of persistence. The youth has already clearly given an answer, and yet the boyfriend is persisting to ask them for nudes and not respecting their answer.
6. My partner hinted at breaking up with me, saying I obviously wasn’t committed because I wouldn’t send a nude.
This is an example of a threat. Threatening to break up with someone if they don’t send nudes is never okay.
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